Leadership from Within
by Peter Urs Bender
(NC)-Every one of us has an idea or dream of something we want in our lives. A more successful
business. Feeling more fulfilled in our work. Having better relationships. Seeing the world
Unfortunately, many of us do not accomplish our dreams. OFten, we wait for someone else to
lead or to give us the power to turn our vision into reality. And that is a mistake.
We all possess the seeds of greatness. In this respect, we are no different from Bill Gates,
Mary Kay Ash, Ted Rogers and any other top business leader.
Becoming a leaders is a skill. You can learn how to do it. The resources you need are already
However, what blocks us is fear. We are afraid to stand out; to speak our minds, or risk
being criticized or looking foolish. It is this fear that stops us from being the leaders in
our own lives.
So what do we do?
There are five steps to becoming a "leader-from-within".
Leadership is more than directing others. It starts with leading yourself. This takes
knowing your values. Listening to your heart. Finding what's important to you and what
you want in life. But how often do you stop and ask yourself these important questions?
Not often. Take some time to start. Take a wlak in the woods on the weekend. Sit in a
quiet room for a few minutes this evening. Take time to reflect over your morning coffee,
or on your way home from work.
2)Have Vision and Passion
We all have vision. It's the ability to see things as they could be instead of as they
are now. Every product, every business, every scientific discovery that exists today was
at some time in history "impossible." It took someone with a different prespective to
see, believe and create it.
What ideas keep popping into your mind? Those ar visions of the way life could be. But
if it is to be, "it is up to thee."
Start by keeping a journal. Don't lose your ideas; write them down. See which ones keep
Then ask yourself: Which ones do I feel strongly about? Which "feel right"? Do I love to
share them? Do they move or inspire me? These are signs of passion: the force which
turns ideas into action, and dreams into reality.
Most of us are afriand of being wrong, so we don't act on our ideas. But wishing or
wanting is not enough. You must take risks to succeed.
Start by taking small actions. Make clear decisions. Get the ball rolling. Then watch
what happens and learn as you go.
Listen to others about what they want as well. Encourage them to make decisions. Don't
bite their heads off for making mistakes. Find and support what they do right--and that
support will eventually come back to you.
One of the biggest risks you will ever make is sharing your vision and passion with people.
"People will think I'm crazy." "It's selfish to talk about what I want." "It's not possible
anyway." Are these the words and fears that stop you?
Then start doay. Say what is on your mind or how you are feeling. Not egotistically: but
honestly, sincerely. It will open up new opportunities you never thought were possible.
Go further. Join an association. Contribute your time. Write an article. Speak up at
meetings. Each of these takes a decision, a commitment, and a risk. All will move you
toward your goal.
5)Measure Progress and Results
How do you konw if you are making progress or achieving success? You must check your
Look at what you've done up to now and ask yourself: Is this working? (In other words, is
it creating the results I want?) Do I feel like I"m going in the right direction? Am I
happier and more fulfilled? Am I growing? Is this valuable to others? Then ask others
for their feedback and ideas. These can be vital to making your project a success.
Leadership from within is not about succeeding by ourselves. It's about succeeding by bieng
ourselves, and receiving help along the way.
Peter Urs Bender is author of the bestselling books, Leadership from Within and Secrets of
Power Presentations. For more tips, see www.PeterUrsBender.com